Coping Strategies During Divorce
I know because of my personal experience and over my twenty-plus years of practice in Kentucky that divorce is a major life event that can dramatically impact your future. The legal details may be daunting, from dividing marital property to crafting parenting plans for child custody. However, the emotional and mental challenges can be just as significant, if not more stressful. As a Kentucky family law firm, Bowman Legal has guided countless clients through difficult divorces, always prioritizing both their legal outcomes and their well-being.
Below are strategies that can help you cope with the upheaval of divorce and changes to your family while positioning yourself for the best possible results—legally, financially, and emotionally.
1. Recognize and Validate Your Emotions
Divorce can trigger everything from grief and frustration to relief and fear. Kentucky is a no fault state, so courts are limited to fair resolutions under the law (such as equitable property division, according to KRS 403.190). This focus does not negate the emotional toll. Allow yourself to process your feelings without shame. Talk to friends, keep a journal, or work with a therapist to find healthy outlets for your emotions.
2. Put Self-Care on the Agenda
Prioritizing yourself is essential during a divorce. Make a conscious effort to get enough sleep, eat balanced meals, and stay active. Physical activities like walking or Pilates can help reduce stress. Incorporate mental wellness practices—whether that’s daily meditation, deep breathing, or even simple stretching. Regular self-care will help you keep a clear head while making important decisions about property division, maintenance (also referred to as alimony), or child support.
3. Seek Professional Guidance Early
From navigating child custody arrangements to understanding spousal maintenance, working with a professional counselor or therapist can offer relief and clarity. If children are involved, a counselor experienced in family dynamics can be especially helpful in minimizing conflict and focusing on the best interests of your children.
4. Lean on Your Support Network
No one should go through a divorce in isolation. Reach out to trusted family members and friends. Consider joining in-person or online support groups where others understand your challenges. These connections not only combat loneliness; they can also provide fresh perspectives on everything from co-parenting strategies to managing stress. While this support network is very beneficial, you should always rely on your attorney for legal advice and just let your friends be friends.
5. Maintain Realistic Expectations
Divorce in Kentucky—or anywhere—is seldom a quick or simple process. Whether you’re negotiating a settlement or preparing for a court hearing, expect highs and lows. Focus on what you can control, such as maintaining a respectful tone during negotiations, following court orders, and taking care of day-to-day tasks. Celebrate small milestones, even if they’re as simple as filing essential documents or reaching an interim agreement on child visitation.
6. Build a Solid Support Team
Besides friends and family, your divorce support network should include qualified professionals such as therapists, financial planners, and attorneys experienced in Kentucky family law. An attorney can protect your rights, ensure compliance with Kentucky statutes, and provide insights that help you avoid costly mistakes. A financial advisor can help you understand the long-term impact of property and asset division, ensuring you make informed decisions for your future.
7. Prepare for Life After Divorce
Even though divorce can feel overwhelming, setting goals for the future can help you rediscover hope. Visualize what you want your post-divorce life to look like—financially, emotionally, and socially. Whether that’s budgeting for a new home, planning a vacation with your children, or pursuing a career change, your future can be a positive one.
8. Partner with the Right Lawyer
At Bowman Legal, we know that every client’s divorce journey is unique. Jason A. Bowman, combines compassionate counsel with in-depth knowledge of Kentucky law. Our goal is to guide you step by step—from filing the initial petition to finalizing child custody arrangements and spousal maintenance. We also believe in offering personalized attention, ensuring that you understand your rights and choices at each turn.
Mental Health Resources for Kentuckians
National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI): Offers resources and support for individuals dealing with mental health struggles.
Mental Health of America of Kentucky: Additional resources and support for individuals dealing with mental health struggles.
Psychology Today: Find local therapists in Kentucky and read articles on coping with divorce.
Need Legal Support During Your Divorce?
We’re here to help you navigate the legal and emotional complexities of ending a marriage in Kentucky. Whether you have questions about marital property division or need guidance on child custody and parenting plans, Bowman Legal can help steer you toward a more stable future.
Call (502) 861-7414 or contact us online to schedule a confidential consultation with attorney Jason A. Bowman. Let’s find a path forward together.